Happy spring everyone!
Yesterday was a lovely (almost) warm, sunny day. And today is cold and wet and snowing. But I'm OK with this, though I'm really eager for spring. There's something kind of magical about this snow. It's a spring snow. It's wet and though it has been falling for a good three or more hours now, it's barely stuck at all. And now that our days are long again and the Spring Equinox has made it's debut, I have a happy feeling that things can only get warmer and better and greener from this day on. The random warm days will soon become the norm and the random cold days will get less and less cold and even the sporadic snows won't dampen spring spirits.
Today is my anniversary. Three years. As I mentioned in my past post. And speaking of my past post, I feel like I barely scratched the surface. I realise that there are whole blogs dedicated to the subject of marriage, and no one post can really delve into it properly. But still. I almost feel like I missed making my point. And I also think I may have made it sound too easy.
Basically, I feel that John and I have a great marriage and most of the time it doesn't feel like we work hard to make it that way. But on the other hand, we're both super easy-going and relatively good-humoured people. If I did half of what I did for John, I'm sure he'd still be really happy. And if he admired and praised me half as much as he does now, I'm sure I'd still think I was the luckiest girl in the world. He's just that good. So maybe it depends on the people. Everyone is different and some people have a harder time at it than others.
I do think, however, that pretty much anyone could make a marriage work with anyone. I've read histories of arranged marriage where neither party had even met before the wedding and they worked it out and were even happy. And there is something to be said with letting an older, more experienced person pick out a life-mate for you. It's still done and still works quite well in other countries. Countries that have a much lower divorce rate than the U.S for that matter. Whether that's because couples are so happy together or because it would bring disgrace to the family or be against their religion if they did, I don't know. I haven't researched that topic...though it does seem interesting.
So, I'm trying not to get all soap-boxy on you again, but I wish people would lay off trying to put out a "marriage is like-" statement. Because it can be wonderful, and then again, it's been really awful for some people. And I'm sure for a lot of people the hard work is made up for by the fulfillment they get and I'm sure some people feel they never reap their rewards and other people (like John and I) are incapable of expressing how amazing and good it is to be married and don't understand why everyone can't be as happy they are. Every person is different and when you bring two people together, they become twice as different as the next couple. But it feels that even the really happy couples might put out a warning like "it can be hard" just so the dovey-eyed engaged couple don't crash after the wedding. And I guess that's better than letting them have too high expectations. It just seems that, if you can be friends, you can be married.
And I think that's all I'll say for now on the subject. Because it's too broad. And I'm afraid I'll end up repeating myself if I go on.
I've made a lasagna (it just needs to be baked) and I have plans to make a Tunnel of Fudge cake for our anniversary dinner. I made a fantastic meat sauce for the lasagna and I'm totally going to post the recipe and some photos of it soon. Probably tomorrow. Because I have a cake to make now.
And John will be home soon....*grin* and then the fun begins.